Mindfulness in a broken spirit
I wish I had been introduced to affirmations, meditation, and mindfulness as a child. It probably would have saved me a ton of heartache. Haha
Like everyone else, I’ve had quite a few pitfalls that of course have made me question myself and my capabilities. For a long period of time, I had believed that what others ascribed me to be, was true. I didn’t fully understand who I was, and so who I was, was whatever I was expected to be. You pride yourself on wins that are not necessarily yours, and when they are done so repetitiously it becomes commonplace that eventually, it breaks you. You will know it has broken you the moment unhappiness starts to settle in.
Picking up the pieces from rejection and failure will have you humbled quickly. There will be moments, days, maybe even months in which you will feel as though you are being pulled into a whirlpool of mess. I won’t lie to you, it’s hard. Visualizing your way out is hard, but it can be done. Mindfulness shows you the way.
What you think, you become
What I have found to be impactful in revitalizing myself during those times, is the idea of visualizing – specifically, visualizing the change I desire to see.
“There is nothing as powerful as a changed mind. “– T.D. Jakes.
Sometimes you cannot get through it alone. It helps to have family members or friends by your side. But there are times when even the weight of their words is not enough.
I still recall when this was the case for me, and I began looking to other forms of self-healing. I started listening to motivational speakers, specifically the likes of Les Brown and T.D. Jakes. Both of these individuals got me through a lot. T.D. Jakes, however, has always had a bit more significance to me. For those not familiar with Jakes, he is a preacher. Now, I personally do not subscribe to any religion, but what I found amazing about Jakes was his way with words. He is a masterful wordsmith in a way that I had never heard before.
In one of his sermons, I remember him saying :
“There is nothing as powerful as a changed mind. You can change your hair, your clothing, your address, your spouse, your church, your residence. But if you don’t change your mind, the same experience will perpetuate itself over and over again, because everything outwardly changed, but nothing inwardly changed.”
Hearing this was the beginning of my personal spiritual awakening. I also began a deeper relationship with the practice of mindfulness – being fully present and accepting of my experiences. However, I didn’t just want to sit comfortably in the mundane. I needed to change my mind about the situation.
Change your mind, change the outcome
When I made the decision to shift things in my life, I understood that that meant I was going to have to challenge myself in ways I might not have expected, and whatever it was I was planning on doing I could not just reach for the bare minimum. I needed to have the audacity to think big, think outside my norm, and make possible what others had told me…was impossible to do.
I soon learned that the word impossible is highly circumstantial and never definite. Going about a particular path might appear difficult and impossible to tackle, but what we don’t realize is that the path to an ultimate goal may not be the only one. We focus so much on one particular route and simply assume that is the end all be all, and it is not the case.
A dream reassessed
I recall the time in which I decided I wanted to become a doctor. For years I had made up my mind that I was destined to be a dentist. I had worked as a dental assistant, dental office manager, shadowed dentists, etc., just to wind up being rejected from dental school several times. Each time, more painful than the last – I felt so inadequate.
The last time I was going through the application cycle, I remember a pharmaceutical sales representative came to my dental office to show us some new products. She had seen me there for years and knew I had just gotten my Masters. I told her I was applying for dental school again, and she said ” Why don’t you consider pharmacy school?” I had heard scary things about pharmacy school and pretty much eliminated that option years before. However, she convinced me of the advantages of pharmacy and the pharmaceutical industry.
The way this sales representative attempted to convince me to look into pharmacy school left an impression on me. These ideas and her presence were signs from the universe that this was an avenue that needed to be explored. I applied to one pharmacy school that year, and it was the first school to accept me. I decided to let go of dentistry and choose the path of pharmacy. It never occurred to me how making such a decision would have changed the entire trajectory of my life.
I not only was placed in an accelerated pharmacy school program, I soon landed two major and competitive pharmaceutical industry affiliations. Most importantly, I became the doctor I so wanted to be. The rest is history.
Pay attention to the signs
I say this to show you that changing your mind is a power that we all have. The moment we choose to do so, the universe will conspire to give us exactly what our hearts desire. Pay attention to those little signs the universe gives you. These are nudges to show you that when a path looks impossible, look again. Always, look again.